Online Dating: Have You Really Had Any Success?
Time for a quality inspection of online dating sites. We need to hear from you if you have ever been a paying member of the usual suspects such as Yahoo! Personals, Match.com, Lava Life, etc.
Have you ever had any success with these dating sites? Did they lead you on with promises of “finding true love” while at the same time raping your wallet?We need to hear from those who are “winning” at online dating as well as those who feel they’ve been scammed because apparently there are lots of people paying in to this system.
According to Wikipedia.com : “U.S. residents spent $469.5 million on online dating and personals in 2004, and over $500 million in 2005, the second largest segment of âpaid contentâ on the web, according to a study conducted by the Online Publishers Association (OPA) and comScore Networks.”
Now, it’s easy to say that “online dating may not work for everyone,” but how can the odds be stacked in your favor with problems like these:
(this information is also from Wikipedia.org)
” * Some sites expect members to sign up “blind,” meaning that users have no preview of the profiles they will get to see. eHarmony is one example of this kind of site. On other services, some profiles are not actually real people, but “bait” that has been placed there by the site owners to attract new paying members.
Both Yahoo Personals and Match.com have received several complaints of using this tactic. Some users spam sites with “fake” profiles that are in reality advertisements to other services, such as prostitution, multi-level marketing, or other personals websites.
A majority of dating sites keep profiles online for months or even years since the last time the person has logged in, thereby making it seem as though they have more available members than they actually do. Many sites offer the option to sort search results based on activity, however.
* Most members are enticed to join dating websites with free or low-priced “trial” memberships advertised on many other websites. These trial memberships lack many of the features of the full membership, including the ability to contact other members or reply to e-mail from other members. On sites which require credit card information to join at all, these trial memberships may automatically become full memberships at the end of the trial period and charge the full monthly fee, without any additional action from the member, regardless of whether the member has actually used the services or not.
For paying members, it is often unclear whether a potential contact has a full subscription and whether he or she will be able to reply at all. There are still, however, a few established free dating sites that allow users to reply to messages, among them: DateHookup.com and MatchDoctor.com.
Niche sites cater to people with special interests (e.g. sports fans, nerds), professions, political preferences, conditions (e.g. HIV+, obese), religions (e.g. Jewish), or even logistics (e.g. rural farm communities such as FarmersOnly.com).
* Some members have expressed complaints about the billing practices of certain dating sites. In some cases, trial memberships that were canceled within the trial period were automatically re-billed even after canceling. To avoid these potential problems, some users have advised using a virtual credit card number which is offered by several credit card companies.
* Even when members’ profiles are “real”, there is still an inherent lack of trust with other members. Many members misrepresent themselves by telling flattering ‘white lies’ about their height, weight, age, or by using old and misleading photos.
Members can, of course, ask for an up-to-date photograph before meeting others. Matrimonials Sites are a variant of online dating sites, and these are geared towards meeting people for the purpose of getting married.
Gross misrepresentation is less likely on these sites than on ‘casual dating’ sites. Casual dating sites are often geared more towards short term (and implicitly sexual) relationships.
* Online predators find online dating sites especially attractive, because such sites give them an unending supply of new targets of opportunity for Internet fraud.
A recent study, led by Dr. Paige Padgett from the University of Texas Health Science Center, found that there was a false degree of safety assumed by women looking for love on the internet, exposing them to stalking, fraud, and sexual violence. Some online dating sites conduct background checks on their members in an attempt to avoid problems of this nature. * On any given dating site, the sex ratio is commonly unbalanced. For example, eHarmony’s membership is about 58% female and 42% male, whereas the ratio at Match.com is about the reverse of that.
* Disreputable sites such as Quechup may harvest users’ personal information and contacts for use in e-mail spam.”
Have you ever been victim to at least one of the examples listed above? Please share with everyone else on the dating sites we can trust, and the ones to completely avoid.
I want to play a game…Sign up with one of the dating sites listed below and tell us what they don’t allow you to do! Do they keep you from emailing other member, limiting you to only be able to send a “flirt?”
How much are you able to do before they tell you that “this function is only available to paying members. Click here to begin your paid subscription..”
Has what they call the “DuetÂ® Total Compatibility System” which, in their own words is “the only one grounded in research on the individual characteristics that matter. Better yet, it’s the only one that tells you which traits your partner should share and which should be different.”
Perfectmatch.com Special TV Offer – 2 Months Free
Sign up for Yahoo! Personals 7 Day Free Trial But what all are you limited to with this free trial?
Been in the online dating game since 1995 and currently claims to have over 20 million registered members.
7 Day Free Trial
Ashley Madison lets you hook up with ladies that are already involved but want to experiment with someone else. Free to sign up as a guest member and to also send winks and photos. They also boast that their male-to-female ratio for subscribing members is 1:1. Discretion is high priority due to the nature of this site.
Free to join. They have implemented a “photo verification system” so you that you respond to and meet real people. You also have the option of making your profile “discreet” so that only members in your black book are able to see your photos.
Has Online Dating Seriously Worked For You?
Have you had any success with online dating? Or have you only been burned by their false promises and deceptive advertising? Please share your experience with us. Be sure to mention others we should be aware (or beware) of.
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