Dating Tips for Approaching Women with Confidence 2: An In-depth Discussion
Now for a more in-depth discussion about dating tips for approaching women with confidence.
Let’s face it: If you don’t approach women, you won’t get a date. If you don’t get a date, then knowing where to find women, dating tips on how to dress, and cool date ideas does nothing for you. So lets go ahead and tackle this whole “rejection” issue.
To focus on rejection is to think negatively, and thinking negatively will keep you from exploring opportunities as they present themselves!
Imagine: You’re walking towards the checkout counter in a bookstore, still browsing through the book you’ve selected just to make sure you want to purchase it. You then happen to notice a “cutie” glancing in your direction (and smiling at you) as she is about to pass by. Her stare never waivers; neither does yours as you smile back at her. She says “hello,” and you say the same as the two of you pass by one another.
Something deep-down inside is telling you: “That stare, smile, and ‘hello’ from her seemed to be MORE than just a stare, smile, and ‘hello’.”
So what do you do next?
Well, if you are like most human non-confrontational males, you’ll do the only thing you instinctively know how to do: you continue to the checkout counter, pay for your book, and leave the store.
Dating Tips Question: Why didn’t you stop and try to begin a conversation with her? After all, she DID seem to show signs that she was interested, right?
Answer: The reason you didn’t is probably because you allowed “doubt” into your mind, saying to yourself:
“Nah, she probably wasn’t interested in me. She probably only smiled at me and said ‘hello’ just because she was being nice. She probably does that to everyone!”
Probably. But how do you know since you never bothered to stop and find out? And now that you’re in your car and halfway down the road by now, you’ll never know! THE WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY HAS ALREADY PASSED!
As we discussed in the first part of “Approaching Women with Confidence,” you wouldn’t have needed some “clever line” to spark up a conversation with her.
It could’ve been something as simple as to ask her nicely: “What are you so happy/smiley (pick one) about?”
I’d bet she’d stop and tell you.
The Bold Bastard You
If you get in your mind to approach a woman, any woman, then you’d better be bold about doing so. If you are having second thoughts about approaching her, then don’t attempt it. It will show in your speech and body language, so save yourself the embarrassment.In approaching women with confidence, this dating tip insists that you also have to be a bit of an “arrogant a$$hole,” in that you have to mentally reduce her to being “just average” even if she is very attractive.
(DATING TIPS FOR APPROACHING WOMEN NOTE: Do the “arrogant a$$hole” and “reducing” jig in your head. DON’T YOU DARE LET IT COME OUT IN YOUR SPEECH. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!!)
The reason is simple: Beautiful and attractive women know that they are beautiful and attractive. There are no shortage of guys that remind her of it everyday with usual “cat calls:”
“Damn baby! You looking good enough to eat!”
“Wow! You look soo smokin hot in that skirt!”
Yada, yada, yada…
YOU must separate yourself from the herd and approach her just as you would a friend or family member. The manner in which you speak to her should tell her that you don’t think there is anything special about her, and that she is no different than any other woman in the room!
This dating tips for approaching women tactic will boost your confidence level through the roof, and practicing this enough will make you BOLD enough to speak to any woman that you see fit to.
But remember: The minute you start with the “wow, you are so beautiful” stuff, you have essentially placed the ball in her court, giving her all the power, placing you at the mercy of her beauty.
She now has you by the balls, and if she wasn’t interested in the first place, she’s just going to dribble them up and down the court (along with your ego)…
Dating Tips Food For Thought
Consider this passage from the book that every man should have in his collection, “The 48 Laws of Power” by Robert Green:
LAW 28: ENTER ACTIONS WITH BOLDNESS
“If you are unsure about a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit though audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.”
BOLDNESS should always be your dating tips for approaching women weapon of choice.
And yet one more passage of wisdom dealing with courage from Master Robert Greene:
“Understand: If boldness is not natural, neither is timidity. It is an acquired habit, picked up out of the desire to avoid conflict. If timidity has taken hold of you, then root it out. Your fears of the consequences of a bold action are way out of proportion to reality, in fact the consequences of timidity are worse. Your value is lowered and you create a self-fulfilling cycle of doubt and disaster…”
Dating Tips: Rejection In Disguise
You may think that rejection will always come in the form of “sorry, not interested,” or “I’m seeing someone right now (which could just as well be the truth),” but most often it will be presented in the cleverest form imaginable.
Here’s a dating tip to hip you to the new fade: After approaching a woman you are interested, the two of you begin to talk for a bit and everything seems to be working out fine.
NOW FOR THE MOMENT OF TRUTH: You’ve enjoyed the conversation so much that you suggest the two of you exchange phone numbers so that you can “do it again sometime.” She then begins to smile, and proceeds to tell you something that goes a little like this:
Woman: Gee, that sounds nice! But why don’t you give me your phone number instead…
If a woman ever tells you this, forget about it! She’s not going to call you. It’s just a polite way of saying “not interested.” She might even try to tell you that it’s for “security reasons.”
Just smile, give her your number for her to input into her cell phone (you must be special if she’s putting it in her cell phone, right?:), and bid her farewell.
She’s not going to call!
Oh sure, there is always the possibility that she might, but only because she felt obligated to do so. AND, I can guarantee it will be from a “private” or blocked number (she doesn’t want you to have her phone number, remember?).
I don’t know about you, but I don’t answer private or blocked phone calls. And hopefully you’re not sitting around waiting for her to call either! Just move on to the next woman. There’s plenty of them!
I tell you this because the same exact thing happened to me a couple of Sundays ago at a local social bar , mostly due to the fact that I completely misread the woman’s body language in the first place.
Want to know all the things I did wrong? Then click here to go to Reading Body Language, and for the continuation of my social bar blunder story.
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